okay. look. im sorry that i hijacked your post. but hear me out.
you are not the only ones who are bullied tirelessly. a lot of us are still cis male and girly, cis female and manly. and you know what happens? we get all this pressure put on us, especially if we are allies of LGBTQ+ already or gay, to just switch, or come out, because “oh you must be trans”
i have seen people who pretend that they are trans or nonbinary when they actually dont feel it because of this pressure that i dont think some people know they put on. and its not your fault, or anyone’s.
there are trans girls who are feminine.
there are trans girls who are masculine.
there are trans boys who are feminine. there are trans boys who are masculine. there are nonbinary people who are feminine. there are nonbinary people who are masculine. there are cis girls who are feminine. there are cis girls who are masculine. there are cis boys who are feminine. there are cis boys who are masculine. heck, there are people who dont even fall cleanly into feminine or masculine but still identify as trans, cis, or nonbinary.
these are all true. they are all valid.
we’re allies. we reblog things that say that trans people are valid. we support you.
and i understand that outside of the lgbt community we dont face descrimination like you do, but inside we feel a certain pressure like to belong there, if we dont conform to societal norms of what assigned gender is, we should just switch, even if we still do identify as a, say, cis male, but a girly one.
so why not at least let us feel validity sometimes, instead of suddenly getting terretorial? you guys tag yourself into our posts all the damn time and we let you, because we’re allies.
im sorry if this comes across as transphobic. that was NOT my intention. trans people are wonderful, and so valid. but so are cis people, and thats all i wanted to say.
thank you for coming to my ted talk. have a nice day.
mate im gonna be honest,,,,,i aint readin all that. i get what yer sayin but like
ya didnt need to say it here? idk but you go have a good day man.
ok so you can go off all you want about how cis people are just oppressed as trans people on gender issues but i aint readin it! bye!
at worst, cis people get called “gay” for looking the opposite of societal gender expectations. And they like to cry that that’s oppression. As if being called gay is the worst possible thing anyone could do to them, because “oh no I can’t possibly be associated with THE GAYS that’s AWFUL!” Do these people even listen to themselves, do they not understand how utterly shitty that sounds? “oh no i cant dress this way because people will try to force me to be gay and trans! I can’t be seen as gay, it hurts my straight cis pride!”
I think, again, at worst, cis people would be bullied and called gay for dressing against the gender norm, but they still are seen as their gender. They’re seen as “a girly man” or “a butch woman”
Transpeople however, will not be seen as their gender so long as they don’t conform to every fucking gender norm. They get called liars, fakers, pressured look specific ways, are under threat because if they don’t pass and some asshoe notices, they will be attacked for it, sometimes even sexually assaulted, ESPECIALLY transmen because cis men like to think they have ownership of the female body.
About pressuring cis people to be a certain way. okay literally how often does this actually happen, who even pressures people in to BEING gay or trans, when being Gay/Trans IS FUCKING MISERY. It’s not a godamn clubhouse for people to join, it’s a collective of people who have suffered a lot of bullshit coming together as a community to support one another. Cis people think we’re all just throwing a fucking party over here and are like that one guy no one invited busting down the door and loudly announcing “I’M HERE LOOK AT ME INVITE ME TO THE PARTY TOO!” Except it’s not a party at all, it’s just people needing each others’ support to stay strong and keep fighting in this world that’s against us.
If cis people want to be supportive allies, awesome, but that doesn’y suddenly mean you get access to everything we have because you simply do not and cannot understand what the experience is like.
And maybe instead of being like “oh oh ME TOO ME TOO”, sit down and actually try to understand what we’re going through, understand the differences between their suffering VS yours, and accept that you can give support but you can’t be a part of what trans people are going through.
Mmkay?
This last post sounds a lot like “I don’t care about your struggles because since ours are worse yours are meaningless and you can’t feel involved in a simple post online because that’s “our territory” and you must stay back”
Wouldn’t it be much more simple to just say “yeah discrimination sucks” instead of bitching on how much trans and non binary people are so oppressed and cis people have no right to have problems as well?
No, it’s not “I don’t care about your struggles”
It’s “Your struggles are not related to the issue being addressing here”
This is not a positivity post for everyone to dress how they want, this is a positivity post for trans people who have been invalidated over and over and over for not fitting a gender norm. It’s an incredibly sensitive and shitty issue we go through.
If you want to make a post about everyone dressing how they want, go for it, but that isn’t the issue HERE in THIS POST. This post is not for people being told how they dress makes them gay or a freak or any of that, this post is specifically about people saying transgendered people have to fit a gender norm or else they aren’t valid as their gender.
just like “alllivesmatter” is a shitty response to blacklivesmatter, it’s the same deal here
it’s trying to erase the original issue and water it down to just “look however you want” as a way to include people who are not part of the issue in the first place.
Don0303 